THE PRIZE

*THE PRIZE* 
Ladies, you’ve probably heard men say things like: If it’s not because of children women are not worth keeping, women are only valuable for babies, as a woman you should do this and do that to be marriageable, 30yrs is old and expired. etc

Today, let’s unpack these lies and manipulative tactics while remembering a truth society often forgets: men and women need each other, no gender is more or less important, each has value and limitations.

*Anonymous*
My 52 yrs old ex husband approached me at 25, He said I needed to marry him before 30 or I’d never find a man because my “prime” would be over. He pressured me to get pregnant quickly, shamed me about my body, controlled and made me feel like my education and skills didn't matter.
He manipulated, gaslighted and sold me lies for years, always comparing me with other women online, I had nothing to myself, he stopped me from working to be fully dependent on him. Till I summoned courage and left the marriage. 🥹

*Manipulative Tactics*
1: Age-shaming: you’re getting old, marry now or you’ll miss your chance.
2: Body-shaming: You’re not attractive enough, who will marry you? 💔 (Men have big and pot bellies too but who talks about it?)
3; Pregnancy pressure: Trying to get women pregnant before marriage to ‘trap’ them.

4: Financial manipulation: You should stay with me, i’m your best choice.
5: Emotional guilt-trip: Other women are younger, fuller, more fertile, submit or loose out.
6: Gaslighting: You’re overreacting, I’m just helping you find your value. (And they're always angry when some women say they don't desire marriage)

*Lessons*
_Men’s age matters too: Sperm quality affects fertility, miscarriage risk and child health. 👂🏻 
_Value yourself first: Don’t let anyone rush or manipulate you into life decisions. 
_Understand your worth: Both genders have unique strengths. You're not less valuable because you're a woman.

_Recognize red flags: Emotional pressure, age/body shaming, gaslighting, and premature pregnancy pressure.
_Gender complementarity: Men and women each contribute to life and family in different, essential ways.

*Encouragement*
Your value isn’t determined by anyone else’s timeline. Whether you’re 25, 35 or 45? your life, choices and happiness matter. Do you Queen! ❤️