So, ladies, when support doesn't come from who you expect is something we don't usually discuss. Truth is, the deepest pain isn't from strangers but from those you love the most. Family, husband, friends or even church circle who looked you in the face when struggling and act like they don't see you.
It's a silent heartbreak that doesn't make noise but sits heavy on your chest.
Most times, the people you expect to hold your hands through life are the very ones who let go when you need them most. So it's just you, your tears, strength, and God.
ANONYMOUS
A new mom who started a small baking business from her kitchen. She had dreams, big dreams of growing her brand, supporting her family, and proving that a woman can rise from nothing.
When she shared her idea, she expected her closest people: Husband, siblings and even her best friend, who she helped so many times to cheer her on or even support by reposting her page, but instead, she got silence, doubt and even mockery. “You sure say this baking thing go work?” someone laughed, and another said “Don’t waste your energy! The world is already filled with bakers. People are doing bigger things.
She felt crushed because when disappointment comes from strangers, it’s easy to shake off but when it comes from the people whose approval you crave the most, it cuts differently.
For weeks, she struggled alone, some days she cried while mixing flour, some days she doubted herself, but she kept going and stopped seeking validation from where it wouldn’t come and began to draw strength from within. Months later, when her business started booming, those same people were the ones sending her congratulatory messages.
LESSONS
1: Support is beautiful, but it’s not guaranteed. Sometimes, the people God uses to lift you will be complete strangers.
2: Don’t pause your destiny waiting for applause - Keep moving, keep believing in yourself, and you'll be unstoppable.
3: Disappointment can be redirection - Maybe God allows it so that your strength, not people’s sympathy, becomes your foundation. Have you thought about that?
4: Learn to separate love from loyalty - Someone can love you and still not believe in your dream.
5: Healing starts when you're unbothered - Stop making countless efforts to convince people to understand your vision. Your purpose was given to you, not a committee.
Truly, everyone is going through something, but it hurts when people you swim oceans for couldn't even cross a gutter for you by supporting in any way possible. Remember If they wanted to, they would.
Dear Getfit Queen, If you’ve ever felt unseen, unsupported, or ignored, BREATHE! You’re not alone. Sometimes God hides your vision until it’s strong enough to stand without validation.
So keep building in silence, let your results make the noise, but when same people who doubted you finally clap, forgive them but never forget what you learned in the dark.
